RE: Your response of Saturday, December 1, 2007. You and I met some years ago, though you've never really known me. I visited your site once before, but it was prior to the referenced response. Your response goes straight to the issues that Jen couldn't see. It does sometimes take an outside party to see the underlying issues. However, your observations are remarkable in light of Jen's brief desciption of her situation. It's probably safe to say that you gleaned virtually everything that could be expected from the limited amount of information provided. Moreover, the method you used of posing questions instead of providing advice allowed her to reveal the answers to herself, and thereby actualize/internalize the answers (or suggestions, if your prefer). This aspect of your response reveals experience before juries (many attorneys never see a jury). Overall, it required a sharp mind, clarity of thought, and a measure of personal experience for you to guide this young lady. I believe you did Jen a favor that she will reflect upon in the future, and perhaps allow her to help someone else. Whether the situation involves a love interest, family dynamics, or the workplace, the means of recognizing the important issues/questions is universal. Therefore, I'm sure that your response helped others who read your response. Congratulations. No need for a response. The email address won't work, anyway.

Denver

      Thank you would not begin to express my appreciation for such a nice email. Zandra

     Zandra, I was doing a google search and found your site. My name is also Zandra Anderson! I just got married in February. It's wonderful to know there are two of us in the world. I also do some motivational speaking, mainly to church groups. Blessings, Zandra Anderson

binajeremy

      This is so odd to say, but HI, Zandra! Is Anderson your maiden or married name? There is a Zandra Anderson who is an accountant. Is that you? I have seen her on Google (or maybe that is YOU!). Nice to hear from another Zandra! Best wishes on a long, happy marriage. Zandra

     Hello Ms.Anderson my name is Jessica Abonce and a long time ago you gave me and my friend Jessica a wonderful field trip to the Texas courts in Houston where we saw the Andrea Yates trial. Well I know is been a very long time and I will completely understand if you forgot about me and the wonderful trip that you so kindly gave me to experience what a career in law is all about. I am going to college and I about to transfer in the fall of 08 to a university. I have no clue of what my career path should be for I know that law is such a hard and competetive career that I don't know if I should still pursue it. Ms. Anderson I am kindly asking for your advice of what should I do with my life and what career to choose? I am confused and I dont know if I should still pursue a career in law eventhough is competitive and a lot of years in schooling. I still have your book and I will always appreciate that I have it sincerely Jessica Abonce

jessica

      Hi, Jessica. Of course I remember you! And the other Jessica, too. In fact, my friend, the court reporter of the civil court we visited, has asked several times about you both. I am delighted that I can tell her you are on your way to a university. We are going to get together before Christamas, so this is great news! I am very, very proud of you. Jessica, do not give up your dreams--ever. At this point, you don't have to be committed to law school because you can have any major and still get accepted. You do not have to have Pre-Law degree. I have a psychology degree. Once you have finished college and have obtained your degree, if you still want to pursue law, then you take the entrance exam called the LSAT (Law School Admissions Test). It does not make any difference what your degree is in. If you do okay on the LSAT and have good grades, then you can get into law school. Importantly, work very hard in college and that way, if you want to go to law school, you can. Right now, focus on each semester and making good grades. Then when you get further along in college, you can make your decision. Law school is only three (3) years, and I can promise, it flies by. It is an excellent graduate degree to have because law is involved in every aspect all professions. That is why law schools accept people with all sorts of undergraduate degrees. All major corporations employ lawyers, school districts have lawyers, hospitals have lawyers, musicians and actors have lawyers---every profession imaginable employs lawyers at some level. And, of course, there are lawyers in private practice. Some defend criminal cases, like Andrea Yates' lawyer. Some prosecute them. Some attorneys practice family law, some file civil suits for disputes of all kinds. My point is that the practice of law is very diverse, so it offers all sorts of opportunities. For now, study hard, make good grades, and then you can choose to do whatever you want. If you look at the end goal, being an attorney, that can seem like a long time away and be very daunting. So, focus on this semester and succeeding one semester at a time. Before you know it, you will be in your last year of college and then law school won't seem like such a long or touch path to follow. Great to hear from you and keep up the good work! Zandra

     my husband moved to a different city to go to school. (told me after he made his decision) He told me he applied to the colleges in Houston but did not get accepted. He now expects me to give up my career and follow him so that I can pay his living expenses so he doesn't have to work allowing him to go to school full time. We had a lot of issues before and I have a problem giving in to him if he didn't really apply to any schools here. Is there any way to find out if he really applied to these schools or if he is not telling the truth

jen

      The real question you are seeking the answer to does not have anything to do with college applications. Whether he applied in Houston is not relevant. What is relevant is the fact that he did not include you in the decision making process. Think about what you just wrote. Think long and hard. Ask yourself these questions? What is your role in this relationship? Do you like it? Are you being treated with dignity and respect? Are you part of a team that has direction for both parties? Does this relationship add to or detract from your self-esteem? And finally, do you like who you are in this relationship? Answer those questions, and you will find the answer to the real question you posed. Good luck.